Since we all know that being easy going is way too advantageous for a person so why we don't become one. Or perhaps we shouldn't rush because there is nothing that could be done. Or perhaps there is something that we might do. If we move from my perspective I will advise you to not take it for granted and put pressure on being sociable. Because in order to be a person like that nothing can help you especially not tips that can be found easily on the internet. Nevertheless, the road to acquire such thing is kind of difficult. However, what you need to remember is that you should not criticize yourself because that will only bring to you more stress. Ironically, people that are less "sociable" but put efforts on being such tend to avoid social interactions because they are driven by the fear of being judged by others, haunted by the idea that they will either say or do something where they forget to respect themselves.
First of all what you should need to do is accept yourself the way you are because after all nobody out there is perfect or better than you. What makes you different from other people that are "confident" is that they are driven by the thoughts that they are better than anyone, where you are driven by the thought that you are worthless on the other hand. In addition, they tend to look their positive traits where you are too obsessed with the negative traits of yours. So, remember everyone has positive and negative features.
Since we have identified the root of the problem we will however, easily ignore our other interior negative thoughts. For instance, thinking that you are worthless brings more and more problems. It takes you to over analyze your every single step, gesture, move or word you produce. This again prevents you from being social and relax. So let's wrap it up, first you need to know that nobody on earth is better than you think, it is your thoughts that represent an obstacle preventing you from being happy and sociable. Afterwards, the existence of only one negative thought like "you can't make it" invites more and more negative thoughts where you later on begin to identify with.
People that look forward to please others, cannot acquire happiness. However, the main problem lays within yourself again. Nobody out there is to be blame for you not being happy. Remember happiness lies within you so try to be positive to find pleasure in everything you do. For instance, if you are watching move try to be happy for it and learn to value good things around you. I would have said be positive because people like being around positive people, but by saying that you will start again to put efforts on being positive so that you can fit in around people. If we summarize this we will acknowledge that you are again inside the vicious circle trying hopelessly to please others. TRY TO NOT PLEASE ANYONE. And the final advise would be instead of reading tips on how to become sociable, I will suggest to you go out there and live the life to the fullest. By only interacting with people you will see how the things really work, and will come to realize that you have wasted your energy by looking after something that is too abstract. Finally I can say remember, try to not please others learn to value things around you, be happy because life is short and believe me you don't want to throw your years on dealing with such trivial matters.
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